Bad Habits

I am sitting here watching my youngest son, Brayden stick a goldfish in his ear. He is always trying to stick something in his ear. I've taken him to the doctor thinking he does this because it hurts but no she assures me some kids just try to stick things in their ears but to watch it they also try to stick things in their noses. Great!!!! I hate snot. My oldest son bites his nails or is always chewing on something he shouldn't chew on. The doctor thinks these are nervous habits. I actually have offered to buy him ice cream on Fridays if he will not chew on anything after I pick him up from school because it drives me insane!!!! I haven't had to buy him ice cream yet though!!! I wonder a lot about what makes us all tick. I count how many colors people are wearing and if they are wearing a lot of colors I stare and count the colors as long as their in my company. This I know is compulsive behavior but it doesn't disrupt my day and I only count the colors on adults but this probably explains to a lot of people why my own clothes are usually very boring.... and if you were all wondering yes, I know I am a little bit crazy but really aren't we all.........

More on Venus and Mars

So I have concluded Wade's choice is not unusual for any child aged 11 to 25 male or female except after talking to my nieces it would be more likely for a girl if it was a specific boy not just randomly cute boys. However I had an experience yesterday that really made me think about the differences in males and females. So to give you a little background how this all started I have to go back to Wednesday. Wade forgot to turn off his cell phone and it went off in English class Totally his fault and I spoke very seriously to him about if it happened again he would have to not only pay to get it back but that he would be grounded from it for one month. So Friday I went early to the school to pick up Wade so I could go in the office and get it back. I ask very nicely that 'unfortunately I need to pick up my son's phone" to the receptionist now given they're never over friendly in the office but they aren't rude either. She says I will have to wait because the vice-principal has to get it for me and she is busy. I can tell she is busy because she is speaking very loudly to a couple of boys and she is saying I am getting very upset with all of you of course, if you ask me there was no she's getting mad she was way past that point. Again I understand her anger and I don't even have any idea what the boys had done. So a few minutes later, she comes out of her office and shoves the phone at me and says in the same tone she had been speaking to the boys in her office it will be fifteen dollars the next time. I calmly say thank you I totally understand and that he won't have a phone if there is a next time and I walk out. Okay, first I was a little peeved but then I thought about it and realized her anger may have been directed at me at that moment but that unfortunately, the reason she was angry was not me and although she shouldn't have treated me this way she probably didn't even realize how rude she was being. This is my point though Woman internalize everything Men do not. If all this had happened with the male vice-principal I would bet my income tax return he would have yelled at those boys but still come out and spoke to me politely. Mostly because most men not all men do treat woman with some respect what this woman did though was be disrespectful to me with no reason. I thought about all the times I was mad about something and instead of taking it out on the person who had ticked me off I either took it out on my children or husband. I can name so many instances people I know who have taken things out on unsuspecting innocents. I can think of one instance when my son Wade and one of his friends were helping put up stuff for other people. They didn't have to help they were just trying to be nice and you know what they got for it. They got yelled at because they were not doing it the way someone else thought they should or at least that was the excuse the woman gave for yelling at them. At the point, they got yelled at I just told them to stop and that I would do it, but what I should have said to this person was you have a child would you like it if I spoke to your child the same way you spoke to mine. I didn't but I really wish I had because maybe it would have made them think twice about how they speak to other people. My point is a Man doesn't take everything so personally They can argue at work then go out later that night together or play on a sport team together. Women on the other hand never forget just think about the story I just told I don't dis-like the Woman I just talked about actually I think if I knew her a different way I'd want to be friends but I will never forget what happened that day...... See what I mean Men and Woman differ my own husband can let anything his employees or employer say or do roll off his back, but I know I couldn't. Let me know what you think in my poll if you think I'm right or I'm way off base!!!!!

Venus and Mars

Time and time again I am reminded boys and girls are different. So Wade (remember Wade is mortified when I write about him so hush, hush if your ever around him)comes home from school the other day and we sit down to discuss his schedule for next year. He took Pre-AP Math and has done really well in it (95 average for the semester)and his teacher has even commented on how hard he works so Pre-AP 7th grade Math is an easy choice. He didn't take Pre-AP English but he did get all A's this last semester. He really doesn't like to read so I am not pushing him to take Pre-AP next year. He is clear on his electives Art ad Computer technology again easy because his art teacher this year wants him to stay in it so she can put him in Advanced Art in 8th grade. I want him to take Pre-AP Social studies because he has a 95 average in it this year but he hates Social Studies so again his choice. I'm a little worried about him taking Pre-AP Science because he has had his only B in it all year long, but he wants to take this as a Pre-AP class and his teacher thinks he will be fine so that's taken care of for next year. I'm sure now all of you are starting to wonder what's the problem. It's his choice in Physical Education. He doesn't want to play football. That's okay with me. He doesn't want to do track or basketball and of course, he doesn't want to do gymnastics. All okay with me. He still plays rec soccer and he is still good and I know if this was offered it would be his choice. His choice tennis. You may ask 'Why is this a problem?' It isn't, I am fine with getting him tennis lessons because you have to try out for this sport and he has never played. I found a place for him to start practicing and he can get lessons then I find out the reason he wants to take tennis. GIRLS, come to find out he thinks the girls on the tennis team are cute... My husband thinks this is a suitable reason and I don't...There in lies the problem and the difference in Venus and Mars!!!!!

FIRSTS

I don't know if it's because it's been so long since I had a baby but everything with Brayden seems new and like I've never been through it before even though I know I have been through it. Saturday, Brayden got his first haircut I have been putting it off for a while even though I knew sometimes his bangs were in his eyes. I had to though because when we went out to eat Thursday night someone said to my husband what a cute little girl we had. I knew then he was going to insist on Brayden getting his haircut so I called my friend Michelle who is a hair stylist and asked her if I could bring all the boys to get their haircut Saturday, secretly hoping she would say no but she said bring them in. Shucks, my baby was going to lose his curls that will never grow back no matter how long he goes without a haircut and he will no longer look like a baby. So we went and if anyone has met Brayden lately you know he doesn't like anyone except Wade and me so when we got there I was ready for battle and crying. Every hairstylist there I think was thinking great not only four kids, but a baby who is definetly going to scream. To everyone's surprise, especially mine Brayden decided he loved getting his haircut. He sat not only all by himself in a big boy chair but still as a statue. If I hadn't been there I would never ever have believed it. I cried on the way home and I kept every curl for his baby book but I am very proud of my little man.